The dating dilemma…..
Dating disasters! We all have faced a few.
Well this is my perspective of it. Perspective of a 29 years old, female physician, belonging to a moderately conservative family.
When my friends talk about guys there are various categories to pick from. Funny, smart, cute, handsome, intelligent, rich, tall, physique etc etc etc. Permutations and combinations that lead to so many choices.
However I have just three….
- Non medic
- Perfect family approved guy
The third type almost never exists. Well many of my female colleagues would agree to this.
So having dated the first two types let me get into details.
This is the most common type I meet. And would you blame me? Having spent most of my time studying to be a doctor!
- Comfort zone. You always have something to discuss about.
- Medical advice. You always have someone to discuss cases and seek solutions.
- Nerds. Well who doesn’t want to spend some nerd time?
- Compatibility. Working nights and weekends. You do not have to explain these crazy work hours.
- Confidence. They do not get intimidated by your education or the money you make.
- Degrees. You can always study and get the extra experience you want to pursue.
- Love stories. Well spending most of your time working or studying, you are bound to fall in love with someone at medical school or hospitals.
- Familiarity. Work, personal and family somehow gets merged into this endless medical saga. Its all you talk about at times!
- Egomaniacs: Don’t get me wrong, you may end up finding these fine specimen who put their career above yours and expect you to take a backseat.
- Debts. Both may have huge medical school debts. It may slow down the settling part.
- Social life. Well both working shifts, you may end up missing your social outings and fun dates.
- Medico kids. Hahaha, you may end up wanting your kids to pursue medicine.
- Long distance. Works well with medics.
- Novel: Its outside your comfort zone. Its a fresh twist to the usual drama.
- Socially better. You tend to make time for dates.
- Knowledge. You learn a thing or two about his job profile. Something other than diseases!
- Popularity. Well his friends and family may refer to you as the smart one. (Everyone likes to be praised. Lol.)
- Family time. He may be able to accommodate family events when you have to work late.
- Availability. Where would you meet these guys if you are always working?
- Age. Well by the time we are done studying and think of finding ‘the one’, its usually the late 20’s or early 30’s. So we are the older women!
- Insecurity. You may tend to earn a bit more than you man. Its not always perceived well.
- Ambitions. Sometimes your zest for education comes across as prioritising career over family.
- Snob. We are considered uptight. (Never could understand this aspect)
Perfect family approved
Well honestly, I am yet to meet one. But I feel he would be the perfect mix of all the pros from above categories.
P.s. He doesn’t exist!
Well these are just my experiences and thoughts. Just a few things I learnt in my quest for the ‘ONE’.
‘What you seek is seeking you’ – Rumi